Marty wrote:Why would any woman feel this way; Why would a man find this loving; --
In sex you may distinct between passion and love.
Good sex involves both, but not necessarily in the same night/day.
Passion includes lust, physically and/or emotionally.
This lust is partly 'an animal thing'; it comes from our 'program'; biologically we need to have sex for the survival of our genes. And even though we may not want to make any (more) children right now, that 'biological need program' is there. And when we are physically and emotionally healthy, we will feel lust occasionally (given the right partner).
Biologically, it seems to be most effective if the woman can submit to the man, so that a woman's desire to 'get overpowered' is good for the 'survival of her genes'.
For a man, making love is not confined to being 'gentle and lovin'.
Maybe, making love is a shifting balance between passion and gentleness.
And yes, passionate sex can be very loving if the man is totally in tune with what the woman wants, which may include powerful passion.