- smoking
- drinking obscene amounts of strong coffee (with milk and sugar) and loving it (not being able to do without)
- always staying up for two or three nights and days in a row, having absolutely no consistency in his schedule (and loving it); or sleeping during the day and staying up at night.
- smoking cannabis (actually to prevent being too tense from all the
caffeine and to 'improve creativity')
- moderate alcohol usage
- being very irregular with meals, eating nothing all day but maybe a couple of bananas, then eating a whole pizza when really hungry, right before going to sleep (on a bad day).
- eating standard US foods: sugary cereals, pizza, donuts, Cuban sandwiches, bananas, occasionally sushi or sashimi, pasta with tomato sauce, soy milk, whey protein, you know... meat, dairy, sugar, dough, chemical additives, all the worst things.
Ok now this person, a dear friend of mine... well you would think someone with these habits would look pretty bad and overweight, whatever but he actually is a very handsome, young-looking energetic, very lean and muscular guy with gorgeous skin (although maturing/ aging, it is the softest most moist skin ever). Most people think he is in his late twenties, but he is in his early forties. Strange in itself and this is probably one of the reasons why my friend doesn't feel he should change any of his bad habits. He has been able to get away with them seemingly for a long time but I see it is getting harder and harder for him.
My friend has been experiencing many serious problems like anxiety, social anxiety, severe depression (most likely bipolar depression), nerve problems, occasionally viral problems, ear problems, tooth problems and night sweats. His mental problems are the worst and he has a lot of anger built up inside. He has had many of these problems for very long or on and off, but he somehow doesn't want to address these problems or he thinks he can't, mainly because of the terrible mood swings and depression that only gets worse whenever he tries to quit smoking. He is also too proud to ask for help or to admit he has a problem, IF he even realizes it. It is VERY hard for him to enjoy his life or himself, it is a daily struggle for him. It is as if he is losing his mind and I know he is suffering severe depression. He doesn't believe in taking medication, which I can understand. I am really worried about him and I am trying to help him somehow but it is very hard and he doesn't take advice from people. He doesn't want to think about his body, he has some kind of phobia about the internal organs and how fragile human bodies are. I believe he is so stubborn because of the depression... I mean, he thinks negatively about getting help or making changes because he is depressed and he can't see it in a good light. He has other twisted ways of thinking and it makes me think that something is just wrong...
I guess there is nothing I can do but just bore the crap out of him with stories about health food and how you can heal your body of diseases... sigh. I mean, this guy is very talented, successful (although not wealthy), active and he has great intellectual capacities, but I think he is not doing good at all, mentally. The only way for him to cope with life is to completely escape into a fantasy world. If anybody has any insight, it doesn't matter what... maybe personal experiences, anything, please share it with me.
